You'll Want to Try These 8 Best Spreader Bar Sex Positions!

Bored of your usual bedroom moves and craving something new? Think your sex life could use a cheeky upgrade? Buckle up, because a spreader bar might be just the thing to take your intimacy game to a whole new level. 

This kinky device is all about spreading the love—literally! It’s designed to turn up the heat and add a new dimension to your sessions. If you're up for exploring fresh possibilities (and sensual positions), dive in with us as we reveal how a spreader bar can transform your sexual experiences. We’ve got 8 sizzling positions that will make your erotic playtime unforgettable.

What is a Spreader Bar?

A sex spreader bar is a dynamic and fun tool for adding excitement to your kink and BDSM play. Ideal for both beginners and seasoned enthusiasts, it’s essentially a bar that spread legs and arms apart, making for some seriously steamy play.

Types of Spreader Bars

• Design: Think of it as a sturdy bar with cuffs or straps on either end. These cuffs wrap around the ankles or wrists. Made from materials like metal, wood, or plastic, some models feature sleek, leather-like finishes. Many are adjustable to suit various body types and preferences.
  
  
• Adjustability: There are a variety of spreader bars, from fixed-length options to fully adjustable ones that provide versatility and comfort. Using spreader bars that are adjustable allow you to decide exactly how wide you want your partner’s limbs to be spread, enhancing your control and the overall experience. Some of the best spreader bars include:
  
  
• Four-Point Spreader Bars: These bars come with four attachment points, typically used to secure both the ankles and wrists simultaneously. This type of spreader bar provides an intense level of restraint and is perfect for more advanced BDSM play, allowing for a wide range of different positions and a high degree of control.
  

• Adjustable Spreader Bars: Adjustable spreader bars offer flexibility in terms of length, making them suitable for various vulnerable positions and body types. These bars can be lengthened or shortened to customize the experience, providing both versatility and comfort for different levels of restraint and scenarios.
  
  
• Fixed-Length Spreader Bars: As the name suggests, fixed-length spreader bars have a set length and do not adjust. They are typically more sturdy and reliable, offering a consistent level of restraint. Fixed-length bars are great for users who have a preferred distance for spreading limbs and want a dependable tool.

What Are Spreader Bars Used For?

• Positioning: Usually, it’s attached to the ankles or wrists to keep them spread out. For example, if it’s around the ankles, it’ll keep the legs open, which can make for more intense sensations and better access for all kinds of play.
  
  
• Sexual Enhancement: Spreader bars can make things feel more thrilling and intense by creating a sense of vulnerability. It can also make various forms of stimulation easier and more enjoyable.
  
  
• In BDSM Play: In the world of BDSM, the spreader bar is a popular accessory to assert control and enhance restraint, allowing for various activities such as penetration, sex toy play, and even using BDSM ticklers, a flogger, spanking or adding nipple clamps to heighten the senses, adding depth to the experience.
  

Top 8 Spreader Bar Sex Positions to Try

1. Bent-Over Standing Position

Let your partner stand with their legs spread apart by the bar secured around their ankles. They should brace themselves against a wall or sturdy piece of furniture. This spreader bar position offers a daring and intimate alternative, with the spreader bar keeping their stance open and enhancing physical pleasure.

2. Missionary Position With a Twist

Upgrade the classic missionary position with a spreader bar by having your bound partner lie on their back with the bar attached to their ankles, keeping their legs spread wide for deeper access and intimate eye contact. This visually striking position provides full access for exploration and stimulation, enhancing sensory play like adding a warming massage oil candle or a cooling glass toy to build anticipation and amplify pleasure, creating a deeper sense of yearning and excitement. To enhance comfort, we recommend using pillows to elevate the receiver's hips for better entry for g-spot stimulation. 

3. On Your Knees Position

This position involves the partner using the spreader bar kneeling with their legs spread apart by the bar. They can choose to hold onto the bar with their hands or have their wrists locked in by the central hooks for a more challenging experience. This setup encourages dominance and submission dynamics, with added elements like blindfolds or verbal commands for heightened excitement.

4. Server’s Hand Bondage Position (Behind-the-back)

Use the spreader bar behind your partner's back to mimic the "Server’s Hand," a shibari bondage position, but without the ropes. Inspired by how servers balance trays on their shoulders, this setup involves securing their wrists next to their shoulders and keeping their arms apart while elevated. This pleasurable position is particularly exciting for those with breasts, as it pushes the chest forward and creates a delightful sense of restriction.

Note: For the best experience, keep this position in short sessions to avoid the “pins and needles” sensation from extended arm elevation.

5. Leapfrog Bondage Position

In this position, one partner kneels on all fours while the other straddles from behind them. Use a four-point spreader bar to cuff their wrists and ankles, keeping their limbs spread and elevated for enhanced pleasure. Begin by positioning your partner on their knees with their legs spread wide, then attach their ankles to the spreader bar. Next, have them lie flat on their chest, either on the floor or a bed. Finally, reach down between their legs to attach their wrists to the central mounts of the bar. 

Note: This setup can be a bit more of a stretch, literally and figuratively, as this position requires some flexibility and can make breathing a bit tricky, so keep the lines of communication open and be prepared to unclip the cuffs to make adjustments if things get uncomfortable keep the fun going.

6. Hogtie Sex Position

For this position, have your partner lie face down and secure their wrists behind their back with cuffs. Using a four-point spreader bar, start by attaching their wrists to the central mounts and then fasten their ankles to the ends of the bar. This setup keeps their legs spread wide, enhancing the intensity and exposure of the experience. 

Note: Much like the leapfrog, this arrangement requires significant flexibility due to the wrists being behind the back, so it's crucial to follow safety guidelines closely. Make sure to communicate frequently and adjust as needed to ensure both pleasure and comfort are maintained throughout.

7. Doggie Style (Double-Bar)

Doggy style is already a favorite for many couples, but adding a spreader bar makes it even more exhilarating. Your partner kneels on all fours with the spreader bar securing their legs apart. This position allows for deep penetration and the spreader bar adds a heightened sense of restraint and submission.

8. The Advanced X Position (Double-Bar)

To perform this position, you'll need two spreader bars: one bar for the wrists and another for the ankles. Start by having your partner sit on a flat surface with their legs spread apart and knees bent. Secure their ankles to a lower spreader bar using ankle cuffs. Next, have them bend their arms at the elbows, spreading their wrists as far apart as possible, then attach their wrists to an upper spreader bar using wrist cuffs. This setup creates a restrained and open position, enhancing the intensity and variety of your play.

Note: To turn up the heat, don’t limit yourself to just wrist and ankle restraints—get even more adventurous with a kinky collar that allows for attachments! For a more intense experience, use a four-point spreader bar and attach your collar to the central mounts of the bar. Then, secure your wrists to the ends of the bar. This setup not only enhances the sense of restraint but also adds an extra layer of control, making your play even more exhilarating.

Safety Tips for Using a Spreader Bar

While spreader bars can add an exciting dimension to your sexual experiences, it's crucial that both partners prioritize safety. In BDSM play and any kinky sex activity, maintaining open communication and mutual consent is key. Here are some essential tips to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience while exploring new sex positions with spreader bar:

• Communication: Always discuss boundaries and safe words with your partner before starting.
  
  
• Comfort: Ensure the spreader bar is comfortable and does not cause any pain or discomfort.
  
  
• Supervision: Never leave your partner restrained and unattended.
  
  
• Lubrication: Use plenty of lubricant to prevent discomfort from intense positions.
  

Exploring new sexual experiences with a spreader bar can be incredibly rewarding. It introduces a thrilling element of restraint and control, deepening your intimacy and adding new excitement to your bedroom adventures.

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