6 Beginner Friendly LGBTQ+ Sex Toys (Transgender Women, Queer, Non-Binary People)

Welcome to your ultimate guide to beginner-friendly LGBTQ+ sex toys! So, you're ready to dive into the world of pleasure, but maybe you're feeling a little unsure where to start. With so many options like vibrators and strap-ons, it can be overwhelming, especially when you're looking for toys that cater to the diverse needs of our Queer community. 

Don't worry, we've got your back! We're here to introduce you to a range of beginner-friendly LGBTQ+ sex toys perfect for non-binary folks, trans women, and those post-vaginoplasty. Whether you're just beginning your journey of self-exploration or looking to spice things up with your partner, we've got you covered!

We'll be diving into specific toy recommendations for:

• Toys for non-binary people and transwomen (who have penises)
• Toys for Post-Vaginoplasty (a gender-affirming surgery where a neovagina is created)

Plus! We’ve also added in some extra useful tips on how to use them in your sex-ploration. Now, let's get ready to celebrate gender fluidity and discover the perfect toy to turn your dysphoria into pure euphoria together!

How To Choose Your First Sex Toy…

When it comes to choosing a sex toy it isn't a “one-size-fit-all”. Keep in mind that each individual's sexual journey is entirely their own. It all boils down to knowing your own body and what brings you pleasure. Start by asking yourself some simple questions:

• What makes you feel good and what doesn’t?
• What type of stimulation do you enjoy—clitoral, vaginal, penile, or anal?
• Are you looking for something discreet / powerful / easy to use?
• Are you exploring toys for solo pleasure or to spice up playtime with a partner?

Your desires shape your intimate experiences uniquely, so considering these questions can help steer you towards the perfect toy for you.

Ultimately, using sex toys allows individuals to explore their bodies, desires, and preferences in a safe and non-judgmental way. This can lead to greater self-awareness and confidence in one's sexuality. Plus, using it for couple play can also deepen emotional intimacy and foster a stronger connection between partners.

Toys for non-binary people and transwomen (who have penises)

When it comes to enhancing pleasure through sex toys, knowing where to stimulate makes a big difference! So let’s begin by exploring the basic pleasure anatomy of the penis:

1. Glans: The head of the penis is often the most sensitive part for many individuals. It's densely packed with nerve endings, making it highly responsive to stimulation.
   
   
2. Frenulum: This is a band of skin that runs from the bottom of the head of the shaft or the foreskin to the shaft itself. It's a particularly sensitive area and can be a hotspot for pleasure when stimulated.
   
   
3. Shaft: While the shaft itself may not be as sensitive as the glans or frenulum, it can still provide pleasurable sensations, especially with varying degrees of pressure and texture.
   
   
4. Perineum: Often referred to as the "gooch," the perineum is the area between the anus and the scrotum (or the area between the anus and the vulva in individuals assigned female at birth). Stimulating this area can indirectly stimulate the prostate (P-spot, aka the G-spot equivalent) for people with penis, leading to intense pleasure and even orgasm. It's a lesser-known erogenous zone that can yield surprising results when explored.

When it comes to pleasure, there's a whole world of possibilities to explore! So keep these points in mind as you check out our list of beginner-friendly sex toy recommendations below.

1. Wand Vibrator

Wand vibrators like the Lana Del Wand are legendary for a reason—they're powerful, user-friendly, and have been satisfying pleasure-seekers since the swinging 60s. From beginners to seasoned hedonists, they're the go-to choice, capable of delivering multiple orgasms with ease.

While they may seem a tad bulky with their oversized rubber heads, don't let that deter you. It's precisely because of this design that they excel at distributing deep, rumbly vibrations to countless nerve endings all at once, maximizing pleasure.

And if you're curious about P-spot stimulation—the stimulation of the male G-spot aka the prostate gland located right inside the rectum, don't hesitate to give your gooch a gentle rumble with this wand vibrator. You might just unleash waves of pleasure that awaken your senses and leave you craving more!

Tip: With the Lana Del Wand in hand, explore its magic around your glans, perineum, or frenulum for intense sensations. But don't stop there! Get creative by teasing your nipples, tracing down to your navel, or exploring your lower stomach—the proximity to your erogenous zones can be thrillingly arousing (afterall, it’s a body massager, you just don’t need to detail where it specifically massages!)

2. Non-Vibrating Masturbators

Non-vibrating masturbators offer new users a realistic and versatile option for enhancing solo or partnered sexual experiences. With various shapes, sizes, and textures available, users can experiment and find their perfect fit for personalized pleasure. These masturbators provide controlled stimulation, allowing users to adjust the pace and pressure to suit their preferences.

Additionally, they’re discreet in design, require no batteries, and can be easily incorporated into solo or partnered play, making them a convenient and accessible choice for sexual exploration.

Tenga offers a diverse range of non-vibrating masturbators from disposable to reusable vacuum cups/eggs and even with adjustable suction features for both pleasure and stamina training! For an introductory experience, consider their one-time use disposable Tenga Egg. With a variety of interior groove options, this Egg delivers pulsating sensations that promise endless excitement. Plus, its discreet palm-sized design ensures it won't attract unwanted attention, making it the perfect travel-friendly option too!

Tip: To maximize your experience, try experimenting with pressure and movement. Instead of simply gliding the masturbator up and down the shaft, play with different pressures and motion patterns. By gently squeezing, twisting, or rotating the device, you can create varied sensations that amplify pleasure and add depth to your solo sessions. Don't be afraid to explore and find what feels best for you!

3. Vibrating Masturbator

Fun-fact: Penile vibratory stimulation is medically thought to improve erectile function! Vibrating masturbators are an exciting option for beginners looking to enhance pleasure. These devices offer intense sensations that can lead to more satisfying orgasms, making them perfect for exploring new levels of pleasure. With adjustable vibration settings and easy-to-use designs, beginners can customize their experience to suit their preferences and comfort levels. 

If you're seeking a less intimidating yet satisfying option, the Eros Massager might be your perfect match! This innovative device elevates traditional handjobs with its soft, flexible, and lifelike material, designed to accommodate any size with ease. It’s fully waterproof design makes it simple to clean and offers convenience without compromising on pleasure!

Tip: Whether you prefer a hands-on or hands-free experience, the Eros Massager offers versatility and excitement. Wrap it around your shaft, adjust the pressure and rhythm to your liking, and let the sensations take you to new heights of pleasure. But the Eros doesn't stop there—incorporate this handheld vibrating massager into the bedroom with a partner for next-level blowjob experiences.

4. Anal Toys

If you’re not keen on penile play and want to de-prioritise direct stimulation on the shaft, diving into the world of anal toys can open up a whole new realm of pleasure. Not only does the anus boast a ton of nerve endings for extra excitement, but it's also the gateway to targeting that elusive prostate gland, which can lead to some seriously intense sensations and even hands-free orgasms.

Now, for all you beginners out there, safety first! Always opt for a butt toy with a flared base to avoid any unwanted trips to the ER. The Peachy Bunch is a fantastic starter kit for your backdoor adventures. These anal plugs come in three gradually sized options, each featuring a tapered tip for easy insertion and comfort. Plus, there's a powerful bullet vibrator that you can pair up with its Bluetooth remote control for those hands-free thrills!

Tip: Always start slow when it comes to butt play. Begin by stimulating your anus externally. You can draw circles with your finger or move in an upward and downward motion. Alternatively, if you're up for it, you can try the same with a Peachy Bunch toy, with the vibrations teasing around the opening of your anus, as this can help to ease your sphincter muscles, allowing for easier and more comfortable penetration. And when it’s finally time for penetration, remember to be generous with lube (since the anus doesn't lubricate itself). For even more enjoyable experiences, don't forget to check out our Basic Guide to Anal Play.

Toys for Post-Vaginoplasty

If you've recently undergone vaginoplasty as part of your gender affirmation journey, congratulations on taking this significant step! Just as with penises, each neo-vagina is unique, offering various paths to experiencing pleasure. 

Whether you prefer clitoral stimulation or penetration, we’ve a range of options to help you become comfortable with your new anatomy. Below, you'll find beginner-friendly sex toys curated for trans women and nonbinary individuals who’ve undergone vaginoplasty.

P.S. Remember to consult with your healthcare provider before exploring these options.

1. Bullet Vibrators

Using a bullet vibrator can offer several benefits for beginners post-vaginoplasty. These vibrators provide gentle and precise stimulation, ideal for individuals exploring sensitivity levels after surgery. Their small size and versatility allow for easy handling and exploration of different areas of the neo-vagina.

Bullet vibrators enable gradual experimentation with intensity and vibration patterns, enhancing blood flow to the genital area and potentially increasing arousal and pleasure sensations. Additionally, their discreet nature and quiet operation ensure privacy and comfort for individuals navigating intimacy post-surgery, whether in solo exploration or partnered play.

The Raven Bullet Vibrator may seem unassuming at first glance, easily mistaken for lipstick and conveniently tucked away in a makeup bag by many. However, its compact and travel-friendly size makes it an excellent starter toy, despite its small appearance. Don't underestimate its power, though; the Raven Vibrator delivers strong and targeted stimulation that can ignite intense pleasure. 

Tip: For optimal enjoyment, try tracing the Raven Vibrator around the groin area, including the perineum, and exploring other erogenous zones such as the nipples, navel, lower stomach, or inner thighs — stimulating non-genital areas can also trigger arousal though individual responses vary. Additionally, try holding the Raven horizontally to spread vibrations across a wider area for a different sensation

P.S. It's essential to note that the Raven is designed for external use only, so please refrain from inserting it into the vagina or anus to avoid any unwanted complications.

2. Vibrating Dildos

Opting for dildos made from soft, flexible materials like body safe silicone toys can provide a realistic feel and minimize discomfort. Look for dildos with smaller sizes or tapered shapes to ease insertion and accommodate any sensitivity. Beginners can start with smaller options and gradually progress, allowing for internal stimulation and the discovery of pleasurable sensations within their neo-vagina. Moreover, using a vibrating dildo can help relax muscles, enhancing the overall sexual experience post-surgery. 

If you’re still new to the sex toy scene and find the standard dildo size too big, the Dahlia Dildo could be the one for you! With its slim and dainty finger-like and tapered tip design ensures a smoother glide through for penetration, accompanied by 10 vibrating modes for heightened sensations! It also features a curved body and a soft flexible neck to allow you to explore more areas when finding your sweet spot!

Tip: Experiment with using the vibrating dildo externally on your clitoris, labia, and perineum. Start with low vibration settings and gradually increase intensity as desired. Explore different angles and pressure levels to find what feels pleasurable for you and add more lubricant as needed. If you’d like to go slow and avoid penetration in the initial stages, you could also stimulate your clitoris using the Dahlia’s grooved head. Explore your clitoris and its surrounding area and find the right pressure and angle for a deeper sensation.

3. Glass Dildos

Have you ever considered that glass dildos aren't just reserved for the seasoned enthusiasts? Surprisingly, they're fantastic for beginners too! While the idea of using a glass toy might initially seem daunting, its unique rigidity is precisely what makes it so exceptional. This firmness allows for precise pressure application, offering a sensation of fullness without sacrificing comfort. Thanks to its smooth surface, a glass dildo effortlessly glides with just a touch of lube, ensuring a seamless and enjoyable penetration experience.

One of the standout features of glass dildos is their non-porous nature, which not only simplifies cleaning but also promotes hygiene, especially during the healing process. Furthermore, their durability and wide array of shapes and sizes cater to individual preferences, empowering users in their exploration of their evolving anatomy.

For beginners, consider the Bubble Glass Dildo, featuring a series of bulbous shapes that gradually increase in size, promising both a gentle stretch and a satisfying fullness, ultimately leading to maximum pleasure with exhilarating sensations.

Beyond its structural benefits, glass also serves as an excellent conductor of temperature, making it an ideal choice for temperature play. However, it's crucial to test the temperature on a less sensitive area like your arm before introducing it to more intimate regions.

Tip: Take your time to explore your body and get comfortable with the sensations. Engage in foreplay to help relax your muscles and increase arousal. Upon penetration, be sure to have your lubricant ready and lather your glass dildo and the opening of your neo-vagina with it. Find a position that feels comfortable and allows you to control the depth and angle of penetration. You can try lying on your back with your legs bent or propped up, or experiment with other positions that feel comfortable for you.

Exploring sexuality and pleasure should be an inclusive and empowering journey for everyone, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation. Our selection of beginner-friendly LGBTQ+ sex toys caters to the unique needs and desires of transgender women, queer, and non-binary individuals, ensuring a safe and enjoyable experience. Should you require further assistance or guidance, our team of Pleasure Experts is here to support you every step of the way. Feel free to schedule a private showroom appointment with us, where we can work together to find the perfect fit for you. Let's embark on this journey of self-discovery and pleasure together.