The Ultimate Tease: Mastering the Art of Edging Solo or with Your Plus-One

Ever felt a twinge of disappointment when a sexual climax races past too quickly? 

Orgasms are intensely personal, and sometimes, they can leave us wanting more—a deeper, more profound connection to our own pleasure and that of our partners. But what if you could elevate every intimate moment into a crescendo of sensation that lasts longer and feels stronger? 

Welcome to the world of edging—a tantalising technique that allows you to fine-tune the intensity and extend the duration of your climactic experiences, whether solo or with your plus-one. 

Ready to redefine pleasure on your own terms?

What is the Buzz About Edging?

Edging, commonly referred to as "peaking" or "teasing," involves repeatedly skirting the very brink of climax before deliberately pulling back to delay the release and prolong your erotic journey until you finally decide to let go—a strategic game of 'almost there.' 

The idea is to let pleasure build gradually. With each pause, the anticipation mounts, transforming your sexual narrative! While it might sound daunting—and yes, it does require a tempting mix of self-control and timing—the payoff is a more intense, prolonged climax that's well worth the wait! 

And when it comes to the old wives' tales suggesting that edging leads to so-called blue balls or blue vulva, let's set the record straight: these conditions are more about discomfort from prolonged arousal than any serious harm. Also, about those online buzzes suggesting edging increases testosterone—there's no scientific backing to these claims. Instead, let's keep our eyes on the prize—focusing on the pleasure and perks of edging without getting tangled up in the myths.

Why Edge? There's More to It Than Just the Climax!

Edging is much more than a pathway to explosive climaxes; it's about enhancing the journey there and deepening your understanding of your body’s responses, allowing you to gain mastery over your arousal process.

For vulva-owners and penis-owners alike, edging offers a thrilling boost to sexual wellness, spicing up intimate moments across the board. Plus, by delaying gratification, you boost your body's production of feel-good hormones, enhancing both the emotional and physical aspects of your sexual experience.

So, why edge? 

The benefits of edging extend across several dimensions of sexual wellness, enriching both solo and partnered experiences:

Spicing Up Solo Sessions

• Intensified Orgasms: By repeatedly approaching the point of climax and then pulling back, you build up sexual tension and arousal. This build-up creates a more explosive release when you finally allow yourself to orgasm, making the experience significantly more powerful and satisfying.
• Enhanced Control: Regular practice of edging helps you develop greater orgasm control. This can be particularly beneficial for those who experience premature ejaculation, as it teaches you to manage and delay your climax, leading to more satisfying sexual encounters.
• Improved Endurance: Regularly practising edging can also increase your sexual stamina. While it may be tempting to give in to the first rush of pleasure from arousal, over time, you become more adept at managing your arousal levels and sexual responses. This increased control allows for more fulfilling lovemaking sessions without rushing to climax.

Enhancing Partner Play

• Prolonged Pleasure: Edging extends the duration of sexual activity, allowing you and your partner to enjoy the sensations for a longer period. It’s a win-win for everyone!
• Heightened Sensitivity: Each time you approach the brink of orgasm, your nerve endings become more engorged and sensitised. This increased sensitivity means that every touch, kiss, and caress feels more intense, amplifying the overall pleasure you experience.
• Increased Anticipation: The act of stopping and starting builds suspense and excitement. This heightened anticipation can make the eventual orgasm feel even more rewarding, as the prolonged build-up adds an element of psychological pleasure that enhances the physical experience.
• Better Communication: Engaging in edging often requires clear communication and cooperation with your partner. This can lead to a deeper emotional connection as you work together to achieve mutual satisfaction, strengthening your bond and intimacy.
• Variety and Exploration: Introducing edging into your sexual routine adds variety and encourages exploration. This can keep your sexual relationship fresh and exciting as you experiment with different techniques and discover new ways to pleasure each other.

The Mental Edge

• Boosted Hormone Production: Delaying orgasm can increase the release of endorphins and oxytocin, hormones associated with pleasure, bonding, and relaxation. This hormonal boost enhances both the emotional and physical aspects of your sexual experience, making it more enjoyable and rewarding.
• Mindfulness and Focus: Edging requires you to be present and mindful, focusing intently on the sensations and your partner. This heightened awareness can make the sexual experience more immersive and fulfilling as you become more attuned to each other's needs and responses.
• Boost Your Sexual Confidence: Mastering the art of edging can significantly improve your confidence both in and out of the bedroom. It’s about knowing you can control and extend your pleasure as you please—the power is in your hands!

How to Edge?

Sold on the idea of taking your pleasure to the next level? 

From solo play to shared experiences with a partner, here's how to navigate the thrilling peaks of edging:

Getting Started: Finding Your Peak

Finding your peak, or "Point of No Return" (PNR), is key for anyone looking to master edging. It’s the sweet spot where arousal is at its max, right before the climax. 

Knowing your PNR means being in tune with your body—notice when your breathing gets sharper, your movements become more focused, and your mind zeroes in on the sensation. The trick is to approach this point carefully and then ease back—repeatedly. 

The more you practise this tease-and-tantalise cycle, the more explosive the finale.

Solo Pleasure Tactics: The Art of Self-Tease

Mastering the solo art of edging involves a blend of self-awareness and the right tools—either your hands, fingers, or your favourite sex toy can be effective.

For instance, some vibrators, like bullet vibrators, are great for gentle, precise stimulation, while wand vibrators offer powerful, broad sensations, ideal for enveloping the entire erogenous zone in waves of pleasure. Alternatively, non-vibrating male sex toys, like soft and realistic masturbators with textured interiors, can deliver intensified pleasure. 

Whatever your vice may be, the goal is to flirt with the edge of climax—starting with lower settings to extend enjoyment and switching to higher settings just before reaching the big O(my gosh~). To help you with your journey, we’ve got a basic guide for you to incorporate these techniques into your practice:

For vulva-owners:

• Slow Tease: Gradually build arousal with gentle, rhythmic stimulation. Focus on the clitoris or explore internal sensations to increase pleasure over time.
• Spotlight Focus: Zero in on one sensitive area, such as the clitoris or inner labia. Alternate between light touches and firmer pressure to heighten arousal before taking breaks.
• Tactile Variation: Use different types of touch, like gentle strokes, tapping, or circular motions, to maintain high arousal and effectively delay climax.

For penis-owners:

• Slow Strokes: Use slow, deliberate strokes to gradually build arousal. Vary the speed and pressure to avoid climaxing too quickly.
• Pause and Squeeze: Just before reaching orgasm, pause and apply gentle pressure to the base of the penis. This technique helps delay ejaculation and prolongs pleasure.
• Focus on the Frenulum: Pay special attention to the frenulum (the sensitive area on the underside of the head). Alternate between light touches and firmer pressure to increase intensity before taking breaks.

For everyone:

• Sensory Play: Introduce different textures, temperatures, or sensations to keep things exciting. Experiment with a feather, ice cube, or glass toy for varied stimulation.
• Breath Control: Sync your breathing with the rhythm of stimulation. Deep, slow breaths enhance relaxation and sensitivity, making the edging process more enjoyable.
• Mindful Edging: Focus on the sensations and the build-up of pleasure. Being mindful of your experience can intensify the climax when you finally allow yourself to orgasm.
• Switching Hands: Alternating between your dominant hand and changing your grip can also enhance the experience. Remember, it's all about the tease—taking yourself to the brink and savouring the slow climb to a mind-blowing finish.
• Kegel Exercises: Incorporate pelvic floor exercises to strengthen control over ejaculation or a climax. Engaging and relaxing these muscles can help you better manage the edging process.

Partner Play: Advanced Edging Techniques

Edging with a partner elevates intimacy and synchronises your deepest desires, and it starts with open, honest communication where both partners discuss boundaries and curiosities. 

Once you're ready to dive in, set the mood and begin with a slow, seductive make-out session. Explore each other's bodies attentively while simultaneously responding to subtle cues and reactions to keep the excitement finely balanced.

As you explore, introduce sex toys that can enhance the experience:

• Cock Ring Sex Toys: Non-vibrating cock rings and vibrating cock rings can help maintain arousal and prolong the experience.
• App and Remote-Controlled Vibrators: Remote-controlled sex toys add an element of surprise and excitement, allowing one partner to control the intensity and timing.
• Anal Sex Toys: For those exploring new territories, anal play toys offer diverse sensations and can be a thrilling addition to your edging repertoire.

Alternate who takes the lead using these toys, mixing up the stimulation to keep things exciting and unpredictable. 

To further spice things up and take your edging game to the next level, why not integrate edging across various types of play, such as role-playing, trying new positions, or light bondage? Alternatively, consider making edging a playful challenge, setting rules like who can resist longer, or using a timer for added excitement.

Elevate Your Edging Experience

As you become more adept at teasing the brink of ecstasy, you'll discover not just heightened climaxes but also a newfound appreciation for the nuances of your sexual response and that of your partner.

Expand your exploration by integrating edging with different intimate plays—try our tips from the Ultimate Guide to Introducing Sex Toys or spice up foreplay based on the Foreplay for the 5 Love Languages.

For a deeper connection, consider our Better Sex and Private Couple Intimacy Workshops. They extend beyond toys to enhance communication and intimacy. 

So, why wait? Start edging and transform every touch into an extended exploration of desire and satisfaction.