Alright Hedonistas, let’s dive right into this. When it comes to anal play, it may seem like an unconventional way to experience sex. But for some, this pleasurable sensation can feel like intense waves that radiates deep and throughout the entire body!

If you’re reading this, you’re probably curious about it and wondering what it might offer you and your sex life. Or perhaps you’re here as someone who actively enjoys anal, and is looking for a fresh perspective. Regardless of your purpose, we are all here to explore new frontiers together as there is no better time than the present.

Attitudes toward anal play and discussions about sexuality have been evolving over time and anal sex can be enjoyable for people of various sexual orientations and gender identities. What was once considered taboo or socially unacceptable in some cultures or communities has been gradually becoming more accepted and open for discussion. This is partly due to increased awareness and education surrounding human sexuality, the efforts of LGBTQ+ advocates, and the general trend towards more progressive and open-minded attitudes in modern societies (Amen to that)!

In this article we hope to clear any confusion you might have and give you the anal 101 low down as we enter through the backdoor to uncover a world of pleasure. Without further ado, here are some useful tips to ease you in!

1. Communication is key 🔑

"Honey, you’re in safe hands." Which is just one of the most crucial things we want to know before when we engage in anal sex in the first place, right?

If it’s your first time dabbling with anal sex, communication is especially important because the most important thing about anal sex is to feel relaxed and comfortable. Talk it out with your partner and if it helps, you can also establish a safe word that you can use if things get too intense for your liking.

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A few other things to consider are:

• Preparing a couple of towels, a cloth or waterproof sheets to line your bed
• Being close to a bathroom 
• Scented candles and sensual music

Look out for any signs that your partner may be in distress and don't worry, sex is meant to be messy, fun and exciting. You might experience a mix bag of emotions during the process but know that this is perfectly normal. Go slow and just remember that if you're the giver (the one who is doing the penetrating be it with a penis or an anal toy), reassurance goes a long way so let's not be sparing with it. 

2. Bottoms up 🍑

You know how sometimes we need to freshen up before a special occasion or a fun event? Well, think of anal douching as a way to prepare for some backdoor adventures!

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One of the main benefits of anal douching is cleanliness. It's like giving your derriere a little spa treatment before the main event, ensuring everything is tidy and ready for a delightful time. Plus, feeling clean and confident can add an extra layer of excitement to your intimate moments!

Another perk is that it can help reduce potential discomfort. By flushing out any lingering bits, you're making sure there are no unexpected surprises during playtime. This can lead to a smoother, more enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

But, hey, remember that like any activity, moderation is key! Don't go overboard with douching, as it can disrupt the natural balance of your body. And always circle back to the first point, which is to have an open, honest chat with your partner about what feels good and comfortable for both of you.

3. Lube up! 💦

Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating, which makes butt play without lube uncomfortable (when it shouldn't be). And no, by all means please refrain from using your saliva as a solution. For one, your saliva contains plenty of bacteria and two, it's made of primarily water and when friction occurs during intercourse, naturally, moisture is easily used up. Without lube, your skin may also tear, as the skin on the inner walls of the anus is thinner than the vagina. 

In moments of sexual pleasure and connection with a partner,  it’s a bummer (no pun intended) to be interrupted to a dry halt. So, always be sure to have a trusty bottle of lube by your side (and be generous with it) at all times! This is definitely one of those instance where it's okay to say "the more is better". 

One of our favourite recommendations for such an event is the hybrid (water-based) lube, Liquid Silk. It's creamy texture and consistency literally feels like a luxurious moisturiser for the skin! Because it is a hybrid lube, you get to enjoy the best of both worlds - as it's formula is mixed with a tinge of silicone for a more slippery finish and mainly water-based solution to make it easy to wash off, does not stain sheets and most important, is safe to use with silicone sex toys and latex condoms! Talk about having the best of both world. One pump of this solution goes a long way and you can rest easy knowing you do not have to keep reapplying with a hybrid lubricant. 

For a bonus tip, pair your lube well with an applicator so that you don’t waste any drop of your it! Keep in mind that if you're just lubing up your toy or just the rim of your butt, this may not be sufficient enough to make your experience a pleasant one. While you may use your fingers to massage some lube into your anal canal, an applicator could help reach in deeper and it can even double up as a slim foreplay tool to prime you up for some playful action.  

4. Use a condom 🍆

You should still use a condom as it is still entirely possible to transmit STIs through anal sex. After all, there’s still skin contact and exchange of bodily fluids. In the event that there is any damage to the skin, infections may also occur. Thus, it’s much better to err on the side of caution. There’s nothing sexier than safe sex!

5. Try using some toys 😉

Our classic bedroom tip stands. Using toys not only keeps things exciting and fresh; in the case of anal sex, it helps your body get used to the new sensations and figure out if anal sex is something you’ll like! You can always start small with a smooth glass butt plug or an exciting anal beads before gradually working your way up to bigger toys.

One of the fantastic things about sex is that the modern age of innovative design that has provided us with game changing aides that can enhance your experiences. Here are just some of the aides you can start off with!

Open the back-door to a world full of pleasure...

1) The Peachy Bunch - Anal Trainer Kit 

Can't decide on which toy to get you started? The Peachy Bunch - Anal Trainer Kit is just the thing for you. This set comes with 3 arrow-tip butt plugs to make insertion fuss-free and easy and with it's varied sizes, you can progressively size up once you get more comfortable. It also comes with a vibrating bullet that you can insert into each silicone plug to bring in more fun and to further help to relax your sphincter muscles (located in your anus). Better yet, this set even has a bluetooth remote for you to go hand-free or for you to indulge in your wildest backdoor fantasies with or without a partner. 

2) Blossom Glass Anal Plug

This glass toy combines beauty and pleasure seamlessly for a feel-good time. Not only does it look aesthetic but it's design such as its slender neck, tapered bulb and smooth material makes insertion extremely easy - effortless! Better yet, it's non-porous borosilicate glass material allows you to indulge in a little temperature play! Here's a sensual tip: cool the glass dildo in the fridge or submerge it in warm water to introduce a whole new range of sensations to elevate your intimate experience!

3) Akoya Vibrating Anal Beads

You may already be familiar with the joys of vibration but this particular aide is something a little different. Its flexible beads, bulbous design and body-safe soft silicone coating marry both pleasure and comfort. The best thing about this toy is the increasing size of each ball, making it easy for you to work your way into anal play to a greater climax. This is a sensual treat for any level of anal play experience!

4) Landys Versatile stroker

For anyone with an eye for design, this gorgeous piece is one to be admired. This exhilarating gender-neutral toy  was made to stroke you to satisfaction – literally, with its unique and gentle “fingering” motion that also boasts a powerful motor with 9 vibrating settings and 3 wave speeds. It also comes in handy for finding and massaging the prostate, the male equivalent of the G-spot, which leads to a really euphoric high. 

Anal play is something to fully embrace as a fun and joyful aspect of sex. There is nothing strange or shameful about finding pleasure in other erogenous zones. It’s your body and your own sensual experience –ain’t nobody gonna tell you how to live your best life!

However you go about it, enjoy the ride and don’t be afraid to maximise the potential for your pleasure!After all, that’s why you opened this article right? Happy playtime, Hedonistas 😉